Compliments can make you feel good ,boost your self esteem, self confidence, self happiness, uplift your emotions and helps you to identify your inherent strengths, keeps you motivated, improves your interpersonal skills helps you perform better. When you compliment others genuinely you can instantly build healthy friendships and relationships with people. Knowing when and how to give genuine compliments can make you a successful person in professional and personal life. Complimenting others is one of the most important aspects of personal branding. Complimenting your customers, clients colleagues, aids you to create powerful personal branding. Compliment is “to politely congratulate or praise someone for something”. Compliment is “to express approval or admiration or appreciation to someone personally for their appearance, traits, attributes, abilities, Skills, behavior etc”. Complimenting others is an art, many of them have a challenge when and how to compliments others. At the same time receiving the compliments gracefully is also very important during interactions. Many of them are not confident enough to receive and to respond the compliments. In my experience I have come across four categories of people in complimenting during face to face interactions and through social media interactions ,First category of People is People who are ready to give genuine compliment immediately, Second category of people are people who choose to compliment when they require some favor, Third category of People they always give fake compliments to express something exact opposite to highlight one’s weakness. Fourth category of people is the people who don’t like to compliment others. Everyone loves to receive the compliments face to face or in social Media’s. When you meet a stranger or see a photo in social Media, which qualities, attributes, and traits you look into for complimenting? Your attitude matters a lot in complimenting others and receiving compliments from others. When you meet a stranger do you look into positive attributes of the stranger or Negative attributes of the strangers? Think and answer yourself. Apart from complimenting others during personal interactions, nowadays complimenting others in social media’s is an emerging trend.It is an important effective tool to build healthy relationships online and offline. Compliments are more powerful, effective, plays an vital role in building your personal brand image. In digital world you can give and receive compliments through social media platforms like whatsapps facebook,LinkedIn,Instagram,Twitter etc by giving likes or commenting their photo or status. Social media also adds new ways of responding, such as “liking” a comment or responding with an emoticon, this is a big change. If you happen to see good social media messages, photos or write-ups in social media platforms Compliment them.
Howto compliment others during personal interactions?
Consciously look for the good and positive things in others :Before complimenting others focus and consciously look out for positive things in others. When you meet a person always observe, look for something best in others, may be a person’s appearance, their expressions, ability, skills and behavior. Examples of Compliments: You look great today. You are looking so energetic today. I like your expressive eyes. Your smile is really contagious. I like the way you talk. You are looking too good today. Your dress is really nice. I like your friendly nature.Note: Be cautious with the gender when complimenting.
Give Compliment right away at the right time: Analyze the situation of the person whom you are going to compliment before complimenting, is the person in good mood or in hurry to go somewhere or is he physically tired to listen etc after observing this you can start your conversation with the person with positive genuine compliment.
Be genuine while giving compliment: Avoid complimenting others for the sake of complimenting. If you have nothing to say just keep quiet. Examples of Fake compliments: When a person is obese, if you compliment the person by saying you look very thin now. He may think that your complement is not genuine. To the person with big nose, If you admire a person saying that you have beautiful nose ,the person receiving compliment may think that you are giving fake compliment to insult him or to get some favor from him.
Howto compliment others in Social media platforms?
Be specific in complimenting :Use Specific compliments rather than posting generic compliments like good, wow, awesome. Specific compliments or comments can encourage further interaction with that particular person,Instead of commenting beautiful ask where the photo was taken.
Follow cultural norms while commenting or complimenting in social media’s:Be careful while complimenting in social media, follow our cultural norms. If you write compliment for inappropriate photo or messages in social media it can damage your image and social media dignity. If you compliment others in social media inappropriately to show your love or affection or care for that particular person, it can damage your image and other person’s image as well. Always think twice before complimenting anyone in social media, Remember many people are watching your comments or compliments.
Be genuine and Don’t compliment to impress rather compliment others to encourage and motivate others:If you compliment to impress, your social media compliments can be considered as a fake.People easily accept and acknowledge their compliments in social media pages/groups than face to face compliment.
From my childhood days I hardly had a habit of complimenting others . In my professional life when I started my career in training I have learnt and inculcated the habit of complimenting others genuinely. When I genuinely compliment my training participants, I have noticed the trainees feeling happier, elated, confident,motivated, with energetic emotion ,with powerful attitude to perform their work enthusiastically better than before. In my personal life when I started giving compliments initially I had come across many people feeling confused or didn’t have an idea how to accept that compliment, they had a doubt whether they deserve that compliment are not. It was a great learning for me, I had thought initially that giving genuine compliment is really big challenge, but it was vice versa accepting the compliments from others without doubt was a great challenge. Many of them did not know how to accept compliments. The reason behind this is many of them have hardly come across the person who compliments others without purpose.
How to receive or respond compliments during face to face interactions or on Social media?
Accept /respond to compliments gracefully and confidently without arguing, feel good and think that you deserve that compliment, If you receive fake compliments say “Thank you for your kind words” and still be generous in receiving it. You can also compliment the other person back genuinely.In social media always respond /acknowledge the compliments with a personalized message by saying simple Thank you and by like emoticon .Compliments make other people feel good and make others want to be around you. Compliments can bring the best in other person. Compliments can help you to build-good rapport with your clients or customers or with your colleagues. Complimenting others in social media can help you to improve your online social interactions and social bonding. Giving someone a genuine compliment is one of the easiest ways to practice kindness! Let us inculcate the habit of complimenting others during face to face interactions and social media interactions.
Happy Complimenting
Bagavathy praveen
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